Thursday, November 02, 2006

Doin' Time at Sarah Lawrence

On Tuesday night I present Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House at Sarah Lawrence , a wonderful liberal arts college in Westchester outside of NYC. It's a beautiful campus and especially festive with it being Halloween and all.

I was concerned that no one would show up to a show on Halloween, especially when Tara from the Women's History Graduate Department (which sponsored the event) told me that sometimes only three people show up for an event.

We had over 35 including Jed from Gay Christian Network with his friend Eduardo and also Christine who is out East this week from Colorado. Having Christine there, I asked her to talk during the Q&A session after the show to share about the lesbian experience in the Ex-Gay movement.

When I attended Love in Action, it was an all male program. Although you may see some diversity at the Exodus Conference, the vast majority of people who attend ex-gay programs are men (and usually white Protestant males).

She initially moved from the West Coast to Colorado because programs in California did not offer anything for women. She had struggled to find programs with female staff members and programming for women. Even if they did, many of the issues discussed resolved around issues that most of the men dealt with. Okay folks, today we will discuss anonymous sexual encounters in public rest rooms.

She also shared about the most damaging part of ministry for women, and that is the emphasis placed on relationships with the aim to address and eradicate unhealthy, emotionally dependent relationships, something program leaders told Christine was a common feature of lesbian relationships.

As a result, she was instructed to distrust any intimate relationship with another women. The belief was that any close relationship, even if it never became sexual or romantic, could still be sinful because it was dependent, needy and enmeshed. That meant that these ex-lesbians could NEVER develop close ties with other women, straight or lesbian making the only valid intimate relationship with one's husband and children.

Christine said it was like a divide and conquer strategy. Separate the women, keep them from talking and relating, then they will be more open to marrying a man.

After she spoke, faculty members from the Women's History department peppered Christine with many questions, fascinated by her experience and insight.

For over a year now Christine and I have mused about how great it would be to speak together at events. She communicates with humor, clarity and a great deal of humanity. I am so glad that we finally made it happen. Hopefully it will the first of many such events.


At 4:46 PM , Blogger Elliot Coale said...

I'm so envious that you got to go to Sarah Lawrence! I've always wanted to go to school there, but even to just step foot on the campus at one point in my life would probably be enough. And I would apply there, but with the money thing and my grades for the last few years, I don't think I'd stand a chance.

Great pic, as well, by the way!

At 4:48 PM , Blogger Peterson Toscano said...

Thanks Elliot. You should apply all the same. They are a funky school and I think you have a lot to offer and they have money to give you too.

Well, I can't take credit for the photo. I forgot my camera and found that photo on the web. :-P

Hey I LOVE your new blog. Can't wait to read more.

At 6:43 PM , Blogger Peterson Toscano said...

Okay, Christine sent me (via Steve Boese) a photo that Jed shot of us too. It is a little blurry and funky because it was taken at a distance, but think of it as art.


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